"Expert care for couples navigating ADHD together."

A little about my approach.

I start trying to improve your relationship by helping each person understand the role that ADHD plays. Once you are able to identify how the symptoms are ADHD are influencing your interactions as a couple, you can learn better ways of responding. For the partner with ADHD symptoms, this means learning how to manage your symptoms. For the non-ADHD partner, this means learning how to react to frustrations in ways that encourage and motivate your partner. I also enjoy working with individuals who may be personally struggling with ADHD symptoms or non-ADHD partners who want one on one therapeutic support.

Here are some common ways I see couples struggling with managing ADHD symptoms in their relationship:

Trouble paying attention. If you have ADHD, you may zone out during conversations, which can make your partner feel ignored and devalued. You may also miss important details or mindlessly agree to something you don’t remember later, which can be frustrating to your loved one.

Forgetfulness. Even when someone with ADHD is paying attention, they may later forget what was promised or discussed. Like when it’s your partner’s birthday and forget to make the dinner reservation your partner may start to feel like you don’t care or that you’re unreliable.

Poor organizational skills. This can lead to difficulty finishing tasks as well as general household chaos. Partners may feel like they’re always cleaning up after the person with ADHD and shouldering a disproportionate amount of the family duties.

Impulsivity. If you have ADHD, you may blurt things out without thinking, which can cause hurt feelings. This impulsivity can also lead to irresponsible and even reckless behavior (for example, making a big purchase that isn’t in the budget, leading to fights over finances).

Emotional outbursts. Many people with ADHD have trouble moderating their emotions. You may lose your temper easily and have trouble discussing issues calmly. Your partner may feel like they have to walk on eggshells to avoid blowups or withhold their concerns from you.

These above symptoms can lead the non-ADHD partner to feel unwanted or unloved. They may also feel angry and frustrated about the ongoing pattern they engage in. They may feel ignored and resentful of the unfair mental load they feel they need to carry. While the partner with ADHD symptoms may be feeling different because their brain works in a way the others don’t easily understand, overwhelmed with keeping their daily life together, feel subordinate to their partner, feel shame, feel like they are a burden, afraid to fail, and wanting to be loved, like all of us, for who we are, in spite of our imperfections.

 

What People Are Saying

 

“Talking with Megan helped pull me out of a funk I couldn’t seem to pull myself out of for more than a year. It would not be an exaggeration to say she changed my life. She is smart, kind, patient, and funny (if you’re into that sort of thing). I could not recommend working with her any higher.”

— Anonymous Client

 

“Megan helped me to comb through complicated issues and gave me practical and compassionate options to tackle my anxiety.”

— Anonymous Client

 

“When I first started teletherapy with Megan, I had just made a huge decision to end a relationship. I felt so incredibly lost. She helped me understand why I gravitated to unhealthy relationships and how to trust my instincts. With her guidance, I have improved the way I communicate my emotions and create healthy boundaries. I would highly recommend her.”

— Anonymous Client

Areas of Expertise

  • Alcohol Use

  • Anger Management

  • Behavioral Issues

  • Career Counseling

  • Coping Skills

  • Depression

  • Divorce

  • Dual Diagnosis

  • Family Conflict

  • Grief

  • Life Coaching

  • Life Transitions

  • Marital and Premarital

  • Parenting

  • Peer Relationships

  • Pregnancy, Prenatal, Postpartum

  • Sleep or Insomnia

  • Sports Performance

  • Substance Use

  • Suicidal Ideation

  • Weight Loss


Types of Therapy

Attachment-based

Attachment-based therapy is form of therapy that applies to interventions or approaches based on attachment theory, which explains how the relationship a parent has with its child influences development.

Coaching

Life coaching is an increasingly popular profession that has no specific licensing or academic requirements. The therapist focuses on helping individuals realize their goals in work and in life.

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

Cognitive-behavioral therapy stresses the role of thinking in how we feel and what we do. It is based on the belief that thoughts, rather than people or events, cause our negative feelings. CBT has been clinically proven to help clients in a relatively short amount of time with a wide range of disorders, including depression and anxiety.

Emotionally Focused

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an approach to therapy that helps clients identify their emotions, learn to explore and experience them, to understand them and then to manage them.

Family Systems

Family Systems therapists view problems within the family as the result not of particular members' behaviors, but of the family's group dynamic. The family is seen as a complex system having its own language, roles, rules, beliefs, needs and patterns. The therapist helps each individual member understand how their childhood family operated, their role in that system, and how that experience has shaped their role in the current family.

Mindfulness-Based (MBCT)

For clients with chronic pain, hypertension, heart disease, cancer, and other health issues such as anxiety and depression, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, or MBCT, is a two-part therapy that aims to reduce stress, manage pain, and embrace the freedom to respond to situations by choice.

Motivational Interviewing

Motivational Interviewing (MI) is a method of therapy that works to engage the motivation of clients to change their behavior. Motivational Interviewing is frequently used in cases of problem drinking or mild addictions.

Person-Centered

Person-centered therapy uses a non-authoritative approach that allows clients to take more of a lead in discussions so that, in the process, they will discover their own solutions.

Positive Psychology

Unlike traditional psychology that focuses more on the causes and symptoms of mental illnesses and emotional disturbances, positive psychology emphasizes traits, thinking patterns, behaviors, and experiences that are forward-thinking and can help improve the quality of a person's day-to-day life.

Psychodynamic

Psychodynamic therapy, also known as insight-oriented therapy, evolved from Freudian psychoanalysis. Like adherents of psychoanalysis, psychodynamic therapists believe that bringing the unconscious into conscious awareness promotes insight and resolves conflict.

Solution Focused Brief (SFBT)

Solution-focused therapy, sometimes called "brief therapy," focuses on what clients would like to achieve through therapy rather than on their troubles or mental health issues. The therapist will help the client envision a desirable future, and then map out the small and large changes necessary for the client to undergo to realize their vision.

Strength-Based

Strength-based therapy is a type of positive psychotherapy and counseling that focuses more on your internal strengths and resourcefulness, and less on weaknesses, failures, and shortcomings.

Qualifications

Years in Practice: 17 Years

License: California / 45770

School: Alliant International University

Year Graduated: 2004

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